Frustration: childcare search and breath-holding


For those of you who aren’t familiar with toddler breath-holding spells, please read my post here to understand what I’m talking about.

I’ve recently started to reach out to a few local childcare places, both for the sake of Little One’s socialization and also for a bit of a break for me, only to be faced with the same response: we’ve never heard of that. I’ve spoken to 3 different organizations, all of which have years of experience with children, and so far none of them have given me enough of a feeling of confidence so I feel comfortable sending my Little One into their care.

The frustrating part of this is that all of the doctors we’ve seen (pediatrician, neurologist, cardiologist) have said the same thing: that sounds like a classic case of breath-holding. Apparently it’s CLASSIC to doctors, but not to any childcare providers around here!

One place we toured said they would have to speak to their medical advisor to figure out what their protocol would be in case Little One had a breath-holding spell in their care. I completely understand the need for procedure and liability issues on their part, but it was supposed to be a day or 2 to hear from them. They never called me back. I got the impression they just didn’t want to deal with the situation, but couldn’t turn me away to my face. I’m not going to beg them to take us either.

I’m starting some online classes next week, and may or may not continue actively looking for part-time work, so now would be a great time to have Little One spend a few hours a week playing with other kids and learning how to “go to school” for when that time comes. Do I gamble on a place that has no experience with breath-holding? There’s also a chance that she won’t even have a breath-holding spell in their care, but I’d like to at least have a little confidence that the provider is familiar with it on some level.

My next step is to call the doctor and ask if they can somehow recommend a childcare provider with breath-holding experience, but I’m not sure if they will even know that information. Wish me luck.

Do you ever get frustrated when experts seem to lack knowledge that others tell you is “common”? 

  • UPDATE: 8/31/15 Today we toured a facility that was welcoming and warm. The teachers did not look at me like I had two heads as I explained breath-holding to them. I’m happy/anxious to report Little One will be doing a half-day trial later this week!

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